I see Valentine’s Day as a sorry excuse to show your love for your friends, family, and significant others. It gives you the chance to “make effort” in your relationships, when that love should be shown every single day, not just because you’re told you’re supposed to. Honestly, it leaves you to feel sorry for yourself when you were so full of love on this unnecessary day, just to get it stripped away the next, and leave you wanting more. If anything, it can hurt relationships because it shines a light on the lack of effort significant others show their partners daily. I’m pretty sure almost all girls agree with me when I say that the best gifts are the ones that were “for no reason” or “just cause.” So if you’re in a relationship where you’re only receiving special attention on Valentine’s Day, you may have a problem. Also, Valentine’s Day is superficially classified as the day of love, with no care that it leaves many single people to feel lonely, down about themselves, or, in severe cases, jealous. No one should have to feel like this for a holiday that isn’t even federally recognized. Sure, you can have “Galentine’s Day” or “Palentine’s Day”, but does that take away from the ache in your heart of not having a sweetie to celebrate it with? I personally don’t think so. Now, I don’t believe Valentine’s Day should just completely disappear, but I think everyone should treat their loved ones as they would on Valentine’s Day every single day. Let’s get rid of this unnecessary pressure we feel to wow our loved ones and just make it a norm!
Every year, Valentine’s is portrayed as tacky, old-fashioned, and an unnecessary holiday. It’s a day that makes the singles feel lonely, and couples feel pressured to meet unrealistic expectations. But behind the pink and red hearts, Valentine’s Day is about much more than the huge public displays of romance. Valentine’s Day originated from Christian priest Saint Valentine, who treated everyone with kindness, compassion, and empathy. In true Saint Valentine fashion, when this special day rolls around, it proves that the holiday’s real value isn’t in what’s shown but in what’s felt. Saint Valentine’s acts of love were never meant to be seen and applauded. They were quiet, intentional, and rooted in genuine care for others. At its core, Valentine’s Day is an excuse to show love and appreciation, not just for a significant other, but for friends, family, and the community. Checking in on a friend or spending time with family is a great way to spend this day, as it is meant to celebrate connection, appreciation, and care, rather than flashy gestures. The seemingly small, quiet moments throughout the day, such as a handwritten note or valuable time spent together, show authentic love rather than surface-level emotions. While these moments may not be “Instagram worthy,” they are much more meaningful and genuine in the long run.
At the end of the day, Valentine’s Day is there to both highlight the love you share for your loved ones and highlight your loneliness all at the same time. Some say it is unnecessary, and others say it’s their favorite day of the year.
